If you are ever going to do something for human beings expecting recognition and expecting to get their approval where there was none before, you set yourself up for disappointment. If you expect to get love based on face value alone or based on the fact that you exist then you are in for heartbreak. I am human and through my interactions with other humans, I realized this bleak reality.
A human heart is so fickle, the human kind of love so conditional. It can change with circumstances and as the terrain changes. A human heart can love you for what you have to offer it. Human relationships are expected to be reciprocal otherwise there is a loss. A mother’s love for her children is expected to be the purest form of love. The belief is that since your mother brings you forth into this world, then her love is automatic. However, as you grow and interact with other humans you find that even the mother-child relationship is tainted. A mother has certain expectations of her children, and if these expectations are not realized there can be rejection. When your own parent betrays you who do you turn to?
Human relationships have the potential to bring a lot of pain and heartache. Yes, I know I sound very cynical and negative. There is obviously a good side to relationships which is why we cannot live without them, but today I want to focus on the bad side of relationships. When they fail, when they are dysfunctional, when they are toxic….
The other side of love…for there are two sides. It is natural that when one party in the relationship feels short-changed they withdraw or they start demanding what they think they deserve. Then there is conflict. Words are exchanged which might cause the one to feel unappreciated and withdraw as well. This is the nature of human relationships.
That being said, one cannot be an island and we all aim to find satisfaction in our interactions with other human beings. Always with our guard up to avoid being hurt we walk into unknown territories. It is self-preservation.
Only until we find that one that breaks through our defenses, who allows us to trust again and just be. Family can be that refuge, sometimes. Good friends can give you unconditional love…also sometimes.
Then you realize there is no one else for you…none but Jesus!!!1st Corinthians 13 speaks of the love that is unconditional, that is long-suffering!!!yes that is the only love that comforts you when human relationships fail. I feel personally blessed to know that there is a perfect love…that is the love I seek, the love we all seek even if we do not know it yet. We all look for love in the wrong places and live our lives in disappointment. I choose to love God and let the rest figure itself out. When you love God he is in control…he takes care of you!!!! Happy Sunday.