This is a question I have had to answer in this past week. How resilient am I in the face of life’s trials? How do I cope when there is a storm in my life? How does anyone cope? I reached out to my cousin who is one of my confidantes and she reminded me that in writing about my feelings, I usually find an escape from whatever might be bothering me. So here goes…
I recall a previous blog post that I wrote early last year, The Storms in my life where I spoke about how each storm or trouble we encounter has a purpose…everything happens for a reason. Yes we all know this, but when you are right in the middle of a storm, hearing these words is not always immediately comforting. When something happens to you so suddenly that you don’t get a chance to prepare for it, it literally takes the wind out of your sails. You are in a state of shock, disbelief and even denial and nothing penetrates the rational area of the brain to get you to understand why it might be happening.
Such is life…but now what? How do you bounce back?…that’s what I want to know. When speaking about it doesn’t make it better, when crying no longer works (and I am not a crier by the way) and when you just cannot face the prospect of another day like the one you just had that was so bleak…how do you bounce back?
Someone who is resilient has the ability to withstand and recover quickly from a difficult condition(wikipedia). A resilient object is able to spring back or recoil after bending. The second definition is more apt at describing the state that I am speaking about. When you have been bent by life, thrown around and made to fall on your knees, can you bounce back and stand upright again? If I can then I can add “resilient” to my list of characteristics.
I want to be resilient. I want to overcome life’s trials. I want to smile and live life to the fullest. There will be trials always but what matters is our ability to bounce back, get our joy back. It is not about who hurt you or who betrayed your trust. They made their choice. Now the choice is mine and yours to decide to bounce back….
It will be done.