I have decided to write about some of the things that I am currently finding to be really annoying during this lockdown. I am usually not the kind of person that gets easily annoyed, but right now, I can think of a few things:
Disturbances during my quiet time
I am used to living alone and even during the time that I had housemates I still had my own separate bedroom where I could retreat for hours with no disturbances. Right now, I have to steal some quiet time because I am currently living with my family (sister, her husband and two kids). I value my alone time because this is when I get to let my thoughts run freely through my mind, do some reflecting and meditating. I am the kind of person who lives in her head a lot. When this is disturbed, even for a minute, I get so annoyed. I also use my quiet time to read my bible, do my devotions, pray and write in my journal. This is my personal time and I get annoyed when someone (intentionally or unintentionally) disturbs it.
Incessant text messages on WhatsApp
This green app will be the death of me one day. I know I have control over my phone and can choose to ignore texts and respond to them when I am in the right frame of mind, but right now I am just annoyed by it. I don’t know if it is the lockdown boredom that is making people spend hours on the phone trying to chat, but I am so not here for that. I cannot stand WhatsApp groups anymore, thank goodness my family one is not as busy. The others I have muted and only go in there once in a while for my sanity. Then there is that one random video call from someone whose number is not even saved in my phone. I still don’t get how people can just call people randomly, worse off, video-call them if you don’t know them that well.
I know this might be weird, but I am not a TV person. I find it strangely distracting and I cannot focus on anything on there for too long. I prefer watching the few shows that do not shrink my brain on my laptop, by myself. I am actually contemplating not buying a TV in my own family home, but I might not win this battle with future hubby considering the love men have for their screens during the Champions League or other sporting season. Nonetheless, it is a source of annoyance for me right now because no one can decide what to watch together, we all like different things and the news is depressing. In my sister’s home, the TV is on from morning until bedtime. That is way too much TV in my opinion and if it were up to me, I would switch it off for a few hours just to shut out the noise (unnecessary information, commercials, reruns of tv-shows, etc).
Not having a routine
This one is completely on me, so I am basically annoying myself here. I cannot think of anything that could resemble a routine these days because the extension of the lockdown kinda threw me in a loop. During the first 21 days, I had a steady schedule of work, but since I finished my work assignments, I wake up to nothing and have to come up with things to do on my own. Some days this works out well, other days not so much. This does not imply that I have no pressing tasks to do at all. I have a lot of unfinished projects that require my attention. Some days, I spend hours writing, reading and doing a bit of work; on other days I binge watch Korean films and sleep all day. I need order in my life, or do I?
I spend most of my social media time on Twitter and lately, it has become a very toxic place to be. I don’t know if it is because everyone is stressed out and feeling the pressure of the coronavirus, but the toxicity levels on that app are becoming unhealthy. From female bashing by males, foreigner hate tweets by South Africans over the food parcel saga, hating on celebrities, country twitter wars (twars), you name it. All I see are people who are trying to hurt others for retweets and likes, and others actually using their platform to spread hate. More than once in the past few days, I have had to get onto Twitter, scroll for a few minutes and leave because of the negativity I was seeing. It is a lot to take in and I wish we could all heal.
Case in point, see the responses below to someone’s tweet about helping some struggling Zimbabweans who are living in South Africa, who currently cannot qualify for food parcels because they are not citizens:
While others are calling for Ubuntu, others are showing that we are far from that ideal. I am not supporting that deserving South Africans should lack food while foreigners get it, but can we consider that maybe foreign migrants are in the country for a reason. If they could go back home, they would have gone back by now. Honestly, no one would choose to leave their home and live in a country they know they are not wanted, just for the fun of it. If only we could all understand the complex dynamics behind migration before spewing hate and promoting xenophobia. I support the belief that Africa is one, but clearly, we are not there yet and it is very sad. We are our own enemies.
On that somber note, I am going to end my list of things that are currently annoying me right now. What are some of your pet peeves during this lockdown? Please share and comment below.
Until next time,