What causes us to worry and be anxious is the uncertainty of a tomorrow we have never seen. A preoccupation with the future is what causes us to desire something we think we ought to have at a certain time. I have had those thoughts myself; where I think about where I want to be, where I hope to be. It is not bad to hope for a brighter or better future than the present, but if it is robbing me from the pleasure of TODAY, then it is not a good thing.
I have been reading the “Power of Now” by Eckhart Tolle and a couple of things struck me.
Below are some statements from the book that made me reflect on this burden of the future and spending lots of time absent from the present, and focusing on either the past or the near or distant future.
- Are you always trying to get somewhere other than where you are?
This is where we or rather, I, often get it wrong. This fixation with a future time other than now is what causes me frustration. In times of unfavourable circumstances, my first thought will be, “I don’t want to be here”. But what if here is where I am meant to be? What if here is where I am supposed to be taught a few important lessons that will be important in the unforeseen future? What will happen if I fully embrace being here?
- Wherever you are, be there totally.
The disadvantage of always thinking about the future is that we miss being fully present. Right now, if I think of how many hours I spent today worrying about what might happen or not happen tomorrow, I can only see the hours I spent being absent from my life today. Wherever you are, be there totally. Yes, be present. Switch off your phone and enjoy a quality conversation. Take a walk and really smell the flowers and see the different colours around you. Live a vibrant life because now is really all we have. That being said, I took a walk this past weekend and took a few pictures. The one below is my favorite, look at that clear blue sky and the tree stretching towards the heavens. So beautiful.
- Waiting is a state of mind. Give up this state by being present. Enjoy your life now!
I was telling a friend of mine recently that I am currently enduring a waiting phase. I have had plenty of these and if you have been following this blog, you will know just how many. I always feel like I am waiting for something to happen. The danger with this is that it takes me away from what is currently happening in my world. I know I have said this before, but if it keeps coming back, it means something needs to change. Yes, in the waiting, there is something that is happening, whether we are conscious of it or not. If I am too focused on what I am waiting for, chances are that I might miss what is happening to me right now, everyday. Maybe I am changing, becoming more patient, drawing closer to God…all these are transformations taking place in the present. But, am I feeling them fully or just living life one day at a time? We miss so much by not being present through the process.
I want to challenge myself today to be more present. I want to challenge myself to be less preoccupied with the future and instead to embrace what is happening to me right now. I may not like it, but it is my present reality. As I wrote in an earlier blog HERE, sometimes it is what it is and we just have to accept certain circumstances and keep it moving. And if I look closely (within), I may just realise that there is a lot of growth in this moment, a lot of beauty in the unknown as well.
Can you relate? How do you deal with not knowing what tomorrow holds? Do you care?
Until next time,