I am in the process of redefining myself. This is something I do in every season, particularly when I go through some changes. Redefining oneself is about identity and this is a question of who exactly you are and what you want to be known for. In these weird times we are living in, it has become even more important for us to know who we are and what we stand for. For some of us, we have the luxury of time. We can ponder all day long about who we want to become if we ever get out of this pandemic alive. Some have already started making moves towards becoming something else in this new normal.
There are some important considerations that I came to realise are important when going through this process.
- How do you view yourself in relation to your spirituality?
This is an important one for me because of my faith, but this can apply to any religion. Everything I do or think about is guided by Christian principles (or at least I try). The Christian walk is not easy and one often finds themselves either feeling lost along the way or needing redirection. There is a good reason why the parable of the lost sheep was written. It is for us and if you have not read it in a while or never before, you might want to give it a read (Luke 15).
- How are your relationships going?
This does not only include romantic relationships, but also relationships with family, friends, business partners, neighbours, colleagues…Who is feeding into you or taking away from you (draining you)? Lately, I have felt the need to let go of some individuals whom I realised were not really offering anything of substance in my life. But on the flip side, I have had to ask myself the same. Who am I serving? Relationships are a two-way street. When last did I pour into someone’s cup? Am I doing enough to reach out to others who may need what I have to offer? Do I have something of value to offer? I daresay we all do, we just need to find it and use it to brighten the lives of others.
- Career and life goals.
Do they even make sense now? Maybe you are one of those people who is thinking that making plans or goals no longer make sense because of the events of this year. What needs to change for your goals to make sense again? I wanted to have a baby by the end of this year or at least early next year, but that hasn’t worked out as planned. Am I stressed out about that? No, because I believe my timing and God’s timing are not the same. So I will wait for his timing. Ask yourself, what can you do, even in these circumstances to move a step closer to those goals you made before everything changed due to COVID-19? Are you missing out on your dreams because of fear? The fear of what people might say or fear of failure? Do you feel you don’t have what it takes to succeed? I have come to realise that it is all about your mindset. If you believe you can, oftentimes, you will succeed.
- The pursuit of happiness.
Now, this is a myth because happiness is an inside job. If you cannot be happy by yourself, no amount of external happiness will ever be enough. Possessions or people only bring temporary happiness. Find those things that bring joy and fulfillment. Surround yourself with the right people. Stop trying to please everyone and pursue those things that make you feel alive. Stop worrying so much about the future and enjoy the present.
These are the important considerations in my life. The list might be different for you. What would you add to this list?