Tag: decisions

Help…I’m so distracted!!!

Learning how to deal with distractions is a skill, one that I realized I probably need to tap into. The thing with distractions is that they take your eyes away from the goal. By the time you realize it, you are steps behind. My mother used to call these “time wasters” and I did not understand at the time. I used to wonder, how can something that is fun and enjoyable be a “time waster”? But this is exactly how distractions work, they are fleeting joys that keep your mind or your whole body in other instances so occupied but at the end of the day you realize you did not get much done.

I-do-not-want-to-waste-any-time.-And-if-you-are-not-working-on-important-things-you-are-wasting-time-quotes.

Learning to identify which things in your life are causing a distraction is the first step to actually dealing with them. Those things that take up an awful lot of time but don’t really amount to anything at the end of the day, SOCIAL MEDIA comes to mind. I often find myself scrolling for hours on Instagram looking at pictures of people I don’t even know and will probably never know. Or I am on the twitter streets for hours, but to be fair there is some valuable tidbits I get from there. But hours of that is probably a “time waster” for me. I am thinking reading a chapter from a book or taking a beauty nap could reap meaningful benefits.

Life needs a balance always and one cannot always be studying or working or being serious. But some distractions are so time consuming that it might be difficult to break away from them easily. This morning I identified my distractions, some are bigger than others but they all need to be dealt with. I do have better things to do with my time…sigh.

Wish me luck in getting back into FOCUS.

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Photo cred https://blackcitygirl.files.wordpress.com/2014/01/distracted.jpg

Uncertainty

Definition: The state of being uncertain; doubt; hesitancy (Source: Dictionary.com)

Uncertainty reaches us at certain points in our lives, which is for certain. It is common isn’t it, that we all reach a point of not being sure about anything in our lives? That moment when we are not sure whether to go left or right? That moment when we stop and think, which way do I go now? We hesitate, we are in doubt as to which is right or wrong. Everything just feels so uncertain.

This is not a comfortable state to be in because I have found that all other areas of my life are affected when I am uncertain in one area. When I am in doubt about which decision to make about my relationships, my mind is full of scenarios all day long. I already make mini-movies of what would happen if I do this or if I don’t. This is so unhealthy, LOL but good practice because then you can sift the utterly ridiculous from the not so bad scenarios. My relationship decisions may affect my family life, may affect my professional life and in turn my personal wellbeing. One decision has a tremendous effect on all other aspects of one’s
life.

The feeling of uncertainty for me brings another tiresome feeling, RESTLESSNESS. I cannot sit still until I make that decision. All of a sudden everything seems to ride on this one decision and it just does not seem to be in your grasp. One would think just pick one amongst the choices and go with it. But this is the scary part. One voice says what if I make the wrong decision? Another voice then whispers, you will not know it was the wrong decision if you don’t try!! And you are screaming to both voices to shut up already because they are just confusing you more.

Life is unpredictable and sometimes we really cannot control what happens to us. Uncertainty comes from trying to take control of our lives and being in the driver’s seat. But this role comes with responsibility and hence we try to always make sure we are certain of the choices we make. I would not want to go blindly on my life path, taking chances and not stopping to think of the risks. So uncertainty in this case avoids jumping into a situation without carefully weighing out its consequences.

So whether you are not sure if you should take that job, go overseas, move a step further in that relationship, start that company my advice is *this is note to self as well* FOLLOW YOUR HEART!!!

Here are a few memorable quotes on uncertainty:

Faith means living with uncertainty-
feeling your way through life, letting your heart guide you like a
lantern in the dark-Dan Millman

It is in the admission of ignorance
and the admission of uncertainty that there is hope for the
continuous motion of human beings in some direction that doesn’t
get confined, permanently blocked as it has so many times before in
various periods in the history of man-Richard .P. Feynman

Although our intellect always longs
for clarity and certainty, our nature often finds uncertainty
fascinating- Karl Von Calusewitz